small hassle to pay
i think it's a really big deal that even today, the tradition of the wife giving up her last name- the last name given to her at birth- and taking on her husband's last name, as an outdated symbol of ownership, continues to exist.
phew, that's probably a run-on.
but anyway. this is just my personal opinion and it's not that i don't "respect" other people's choices, but that's how i feel. why do we continue this "tradition"??? i didn't even think twice about keeping my own last name. not only does it make sense professionally, since i have a couple papers floating out there with my name, but i don't see why i should reinforce this clearly misogynistic tradition, just for the sake of being "sentimental/traditional." i'm also a staunch feminist and i feel like giving up my last name would be anti-feminist. just as becoming a stay-at-home mom would be. (this reminds me that in the current issue of Wellesley magazine, there's a whole article on stay-at-home moms who are Wellesley graduates and it's very thought-provoking... but bottomline, it's hard to reconcile being a feminist and being a stay-at-home mom. because really? why doesn't your husband be a stay-at-home dad??? anyway, topic for another day)
so yes. i'm keeping my last name. the reason why i started this rant, ahem post, is because last week, i booked a hotel on priceline for the Husband. i used my own billing information and my own credit card, and i don't remember seeing a place to put the name of the actual person who would be checking-in... so when i printed out the receipt this morning, i noticed that the Husband's name was no where to be found. just my name. so i called the hotel to make sure it wouldn't be an issue for the Husband to be the one checking-in this afternoon and they were like...
"well, as long as he has the same last name, it should be fine."
me: "well, no, we don't share the same last name."
them: "ok, the hotel computer system is down right now, but you'll need to call back and verify some information, and add your boyfriend to the guest list, if you want him to be able to check-in."
in my head: "didn't i just tell you it was for my HUSBAND. not boyfriend, just because we don't share the same last name."
argh. narrow-minded people!
phew, that's probably a run-on.
but anyway. this is just my personal opinion and it's not that i don't "respect" other people's choices, but that's how i feel. why do we continue this "tradition"??? i didn't even think twice about keeping my own last name. not only does it make sense professionally, since i have a couple papers floating out there with my name, but i don't see why i should reinforce this clearly misogynistic tradition, just for the sake of being "sentimental/traditional." i'm also a staunch feminist and i feel like giving up my last name would be anti-feminist. just as becoming a stay-at-home mom would be. (this reminds me that in the current issue of Wellesley magazine, there's a whole article on stay-at-home moms who are Wellesley graduates and it's very thought-provoking... but bottomline, it's hard to reconcile being a feminist and being a stay-at-home mom. because really? why doesn't your husband be a stay-at-home dad??? anyway, topic for another day)
so yes. i'm keeping my last name. the reason why i started this rant, ahem post, is because last week, i booked a hotel on priceline for the Husband. i used my own billing information and my own credit card, and i don't remember seeing a place to put the name of the actual person who would be checking-in... so when i printed out the receipt this morning, i noticed that the Husband's name was no where to be found. just my name. so i called the hotel to make sure it wouldn't be an issue for the Husband to be the one checking-in this afternoon and they were like...
"well, as long as he has the same last name, it should be fine."
me: "well, no, we don't share the same last name."
them: "ok, the hotel computer system is down right now, but you'll need to call back and verify some information, and add your boyfriend to the guest list, if you want him to be able to check-in."
in my head: "didn't i just tell you it was for my HUSBAND. not boyfriend, just because we don't share the same last name."
argh. narrow-minded people!
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